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Never The Less: Mission impossible
By Eric Lewis
The more you try to understand people, the more you would go mad. I say so.
Them got people that would borrow something from you and keep it forever, and when you do decide to ask about its return, that person does got an attitude. It is like you making them miserable, and if you ask about it more than once they raise their voice and would even tell you to stop making them miserable that them gine return it. Then later on you hear that it lost and them gine buy you back one, which they never do. And usually these people are your friends or even family. So I really donít hurt my head too much nowadays with trying to understand people.
Now recently at one of my watering holes the boys and the girls was talking bout understanding people. The women was saying that men hard to understand and the men was saying that women impossible to understand. And some debate ensued over some examples.
Now listen to this Ė a man come home from a hard dayís work, he asked his stay-at-home wife to press a shirt for him cause he was hustling to go back out, the wife says she was tired from all the housework, she feet hurting and told him to do it himself. Her sister, who happened to be there, volunteered to press the shirt for her brother-in-law, the man thanked her, got dressed and left the house.
Believe it or not, the wife get vex with her sister, saying that she shouldnít have pressed the shirt and accused the sister of trying to show her up, stopping short of saying she looking to thief her husband, but going as far as to say that if she wants to press a manís shirt she should look for her own man.
As simple as that sounds that caused nuff debate in the shop. Most of the men say them aint see nothing wrong with what the sister did in pressing the shirt, cause if anything she helped out her sister. But for the women it was a different story, them wanta know what happen to the husbandís hands that he canít press a shirt himself. Them also agree that the sister aint had no right pressing the shirt for the man cause in a way she making the wife look lazy and donít carish, and when that couple got a noise later on the man gine bring back up that whole situation bout him wanting a shirt pressed, she refusing and her sister had to press the shirt for him.
Another one that cause a lil discussion was this one. Because of a manís job, he has to pay regular visits to an office to transact business. Over a period of time, he became friendly with several of the ladies in the office, but he had his eyes on a particular one.
In talking to her he discovered that she was single and being single himself he started making some advances. He asked for her phone number but nothing aint happened there, he gave her his number but she never called, he invited her out to lunch a few times but she always declined. Realising that despite being a decent lookiní fella he might not be her type, he retreated.
A few weeks later, he met the girlís best friend from the same office at a sporting event. They sat next to each other, joked and had a good time at the game. Days later, at a visit to the office he invited her to lunch, she went and came back and told the office staff, including her friend, what a nice fella he was. Her friend became cold towards her after that, even telling someone that she shouldnít have gone out with the man and asking what she was trying to prove.
Well generally everybody agreed that it was now a case of jealousy, cause she didnít want the man in the first place, and if he had taken out anybody in the office to lunch it would not have mattered to her, but it was her best friend and she felt betrayed.
My question is betrayed over what? Her friend aint thief the man from her. But them had women there saying that the girl who like many women was probably playing hard to get and her friend should have known that, so before gine out with the man she should have spoken to her friend to find out if it was ok.
Okay to do what? All I couldda do was cheupse. Now you see why I would never get people understand? See ya.